You may be an expert on politics and religion, but that’s not what someone you just met would like to talk a about. Here are a few more topics that are best avoided when trying to impress someone on a first date.
- Me, Myself, and I
It’s essential to open up things about yourself on a first date. This will let your date know more about you and your interests. However, it’s also equally important to let your date talk about himself, too. A first date is like a ping pong match, where the conversation should go back and forth.
- Marriage and Kids
This is usually one of the topics that send the other person running in opposite direction. Although it’s fine to mention that you’d like to get married and have kids someday, your date isn’t interested in knowing the names you want for your future children or the theme you like for your wedding. Even if you feel that he/she is the one, keep the ‘commitment’ topic off limits.
- Low Self-Esteem Remarks
You’ve spent hours for doing your hair and makeup because you want to put your best foot forward—not your worst foot. Sure, we’ve all got something we don’t like about ourselves, but first dates aren’t the right time to highlight what we think are the worst in us. Remember that confidence is a turn on, so make sure you’re not ruining your own game by feeling bad about yourself.
- Family Drama
Talking about family history is a good topic for first dates, but don’t mind including the family problems you once had or currently have in your family. Forget about sharing that Uncle John isn’t talking to your dad because of the surprise party he wasn’t able to attend. Save the family drama for another—and much later—date.
- The Exes
Really, nobody wants to be on a first date listening to someone talking about a terrible break-up with a recent ex. It’s okay to discuss a history of your past date (or dates), but keep it vague. Talking about your ex not doing this and that isn’t something your new date wants to hear. Leave the hate talks about your ex for a date with your girl friends with a big glass of wine.
- Religious and Political Beliefs
Do not even attempt to comment on a date’s religion or political beliefs, or even touch base on your own beliefs. Make sure to avoid any of these topics as this may only lead to a debate. It’s not romantic, you’ll see.
Keep in mind that after this date, you may not want a second date with the same person; so it would be smart if your date only knows a little about you. If ever you both want another date, that’s when you open up more interesting stories about yourself.